Daydreaming as defined by Webster, “s a short-term detachment from one’s immediate surroundings, during which a person’s contact with reality is blurred and partially substituted by a visionary fantasy, especially one of happy, pleasant thoughts, hopes or ambitions, imagined as coming to pass, and experienced while awake.” I spent some time over vacation much like the opening of this song sitting by the water soaking up the sun the beach daydreaming. Contemplating what I wanted out of my life, where I was going and what I was looking forward to. Through various conversations that spiraled my daydreams recounting memories and considering the future. I turned 29 on my birthday, and thought that next year is my 30th what should I do to commemorate 30 years of life. I had a friend visit while I was on vacation and asked what she did for her 30th she said she experienced things on her bucket list. I followed up by asking my sister-in-law and she add the same as well. The more I thought about it I considered looking into doing something from my bucket list. I have always wanted to learn to surf. I thought maybe a vacation to Hawaii to learn to surf and images flooded my head of surfing the excitement. I calmed my mind and sit, here listening to Adele after playing through a variety of songs today and this one really showed true to what I was experiencing. I wanted to capture not only the past, present and future but direction. Daydreaming as the daydreamer.
The Daydreamer is the individual who holds tight to the daydreams that they have. Considering yesterday, living today and dreaming of tomorrow. I was really started examining my character and what makes me the man that I am or would want to be. The conversation that I had with my friend as we discussed where we wanted to take our careers as she said her immediate goal was to be an associate director in Pharma. I though where did I want to go and I consider the lyrics as I listen:
With eyes that make you melt
He lends his coat for shelter
Plus he’s there for you
When he shouldn’t be
But he stays all the same
Waits for you
Then sees you through
I have say that I have not yet determined my immediate career goals but I know I do want to progress. Upon further introspection I know who I am and that is a note that I know so many out there struggle with. I think that the vacation was what I needed to recharge and focus in on determining where I go from here and how I get there. I sit here thinking that though I may not have determined the exact career path I want to pursue at the very least I do know the person I want to be, and how I would ultimately like to be perceived both on the personal and professional level.
I commented on a post about role models, character, and what it means to be a real man earlier. Those thoughts now flood my mind as I reconsider my standing after reviewing the comments made in response. Have I really made it through life with minimal external influence. Knowing that I have always want to be a reflection of a real man whether that be in a conventional sense or one of my own definition. Has made it easier to make the choices and decisions that I have. I have always been a daydreamer struggling with the conventional paradigms, dreaming of what is, was and could be. I find that this song allows and imparts an air of wisdom and simplicity. Listening to the Adele as she expresses the daydreamers’ steadfast composure to love and care to the best of his ability. A nondescript individual that is the embodiment of simplicity and reflection.
There’s no way I
Could describe him
What I’ll say is
Just what I’m hoping for
But I will find him sittin’ on my doorstep
Waiting for a surprise
And he will feel like he’s been there for hours
And I can tell that he’ll be there for life
And I can tell that he’ll be there for life
The raw simplicity of a man that is steadfast, and loving is what makes the daydreamer a quintessential figure that I base my perception of a man on. I strive daily to embody a real man but know that I am a daydreamer at heart. I listen listlessly to Adele’s words as I recall memories from childhood and adolescence and know that these are the experiences that shaped the person that I am. The choice that I make going forward will shape the man that I will become. I remain true to myself in recalling my daydreaming from vacation noting that 30 is another number a milestone in my journey as a daydreamer, moving on my journey.